Show Notes
Do you say yes when you mean no? My daughter Dominique and I open up about the fear of disappointing people, and why it runs so many of our decisions without you even noticing.
In this episode, I break down where the fear of disappointing people actually comes from, why it feels so physical in the moment, and how to start telling the difference between genuine kindness and people pleasing driven by fear.
🔬 What you'll learn:
• Why saying yes when you want to say no leaves you grieving a part of your identity
• The difference between being kind and being afraid of someone's disappointment
• How to spot your own pattern before guilt and resentment take over
• A simple in-the-moment test for deciding when to say no
• The 5-step Neurocycle process for working through the fear of disappointing people, step by step
📚 Resources mentioned:
The Neurocycle app, for the full step-by-step walkthrough of the process discussed in this episode: https://drleaf.com/neurocycle-app
🔗 1:1 Coaching with Dr. Leaf: https://drleaf.com/coaching-1-1
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