Comfort Fantasies & Redundancy: The Hidden Trap of Waiting for Life to Start Again
Now What? - Life after redundancyShow Notes
If you’re going through redundancy, job searching, or career uncertainty, you might have noticed your brain doing something unhelpful-but-understandable: reaching for a fantasy that makes everything feel instantly safe. This episode explores comfort fantasies after redundancy and how they can help you cope, until they quietly become a way of avoiding the present. I share a real example of how quickly “this is stressful” can turn into “it’ll be fine when X happens,” and why that mindset can keep you stuck in waiting mode. You’ll learn how to spot the difference between enjoying vs waiting, what your comfort fantasy is actually trying to protect you from, and three practical steps to regain a sense of control without forcing yourself into relentless productivity. If you’ve been feeling anxious, stuck, or like you’re buffering through life, this one’s for you.
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