Show Notes
In this deeply personal and moving episode of One Young Mind, New Zealand mother Jen shares the story of her son Harry, who died at the age of 18.
With extraordinary courage, Jen speaks about the changes she saw in Harry as he became increasingly drawn into the online world, the challenges her family faced trying to get the right support, and the questions she continues to live with.
Jen has chosen to share her story publicly in the hope it might help others - to shed light on what some families are navigating, to deepen understanding of the risks young people can encounter online, and to help those going through similar experiences feel less alone.
This is a conversation about love, parenting, grief and one mother’s determination to make sense of something no family should have to endure.
Content warning: This episode discusses suicide, grief and youth mental health. Please listen with care and at a time that feels right for you.
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