Show Notes
In this episode IFS trained Family Therapist Anna Vincentz focus on becoming a Self-led parent. What it is and how to be Self-led.
Being Self-led is a term from Internal Family Systems (IFS) and it is about being you in the present; being conscious on the inside.
Being Self-led and parts-informed is about becoming aware of and listening to our parts (reactions, feelings, symptoms, thoughts...), becoming aware of what is going on inside of us as a reaction to our relationships and notice when it is coming from the past and when it is actually congruent to (and helpful) in and with the present.
When and what is helpful in relationship to our children.
Being and becoming a Self-led parent is about being conscious on the inside (being with instead of being in our parts and their reactions and feelings), which facilitates us being conscious with our children on the outside.
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