Show Notes
Why is it that children seem calm, cooperative, and well-behaved with teachers, relatives, babysitters, or even the other parent but when they get home to mom, everything unravels?
This is not necessarily a sign that something is going wrong. In many cases, it’s actually a sign that something is going right.
Children often release their biggest emotions with the person they feel safest and most connected to.
This episode explores why this dynamic happens so often with moms, how nervous systems and attachment play a role, and how parents can understand these moments differently.
Parenting requires an incredible amount of emotional labor, and this episode offers both reassurance and perspective for parents who feel like they’re carrying the heaviest part of their child’s emotional world.
Jennifer's Takeaways:
Understanding Why Children React Differently to Moms (00:00) The Role of Nervous Systems in Parenting (02:41) Challenges Moms Face in Parenting (04:36) Strategies for Moms to Cope (07:58) Encouraging Joy and Healthy Connections (11:20) Balancing Emotional Load and Self-Care (15:12)
Meet Jennifer Kolari Jennifer Kolari is the host of the “Connected Parenting” weekly podcast and the co-host of “The Mental Health Comedy” podcast. Kolari is a frequent guest on Nationwide morning shows and podcasts in th US and Canada. Her advice can also be found in many Canadian and US magazines such as; Today’s Parent, Parents Magazine and Canadian Family.
Kolari’s powerful parenting model is based on the neurobiology of love, teaching parents how to use compassion and empathy as powerful medicine to transform challenging behavior and build children’s emotional resilience and emotional shock absorbers.
Jennifer’s wisdom, quick wit and down to earth style help parents navigate modern-day parenting problems, offering real-life examples as well as practical and effective tools and strategies.
Her highly entertaining, inspiring workshops are shared with warmth and humour, making her a crowd-pleasing speaker with schools, medical professionals, corporations and agencies throughout North America, Europe and Asia.
One of the nation’s leading parenting experts, Jennifer Kolari, is a highly sought- after international speaker and the founder of Connected Parenting. A child and family therapist with a busy practice based in San Diego and Toronto, Kolari is also the author of Connected Parenting: How to Raise A Great Kid (Penguin Group USA and Penguin Canada, 2009) and You’re Ruining My Life! (But Not Really): Surviving the Teenage Years with Connected Parenting (Penguin Canada, 2011).
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