323 — Always Bracing for the Worst? Here's Why Becoming a Realistic Optimist Is Better for Your Health with Dr. Deepika Chopra
Mentally Stronger with Therapist Amy MorinShow Notes
Have you ever told someone, "I'm not an optimist, I'm a realist" because the whole "good vibes only" thing seems irritating, and you don't want to set yourself up for disappointment?
A lot of us brace for the worst on purpose. We think if we expect the worst, we'll either be right or pleasantly surprised. But bracing for disaster can be bad for your health.
My guest today is Dr. Deepika Chopra — a clinical health psychologist known as The Optimism Doctor® and the author of The Power of Real Optimism.
Some of the things we discuss are:
What real optimism actually looks like in the middle of grief, stress, or a bad diagnosis
The difference between real optimism and toxic positivity — and why "just think positive" can make people feel worse
The question that opens the door to a different outcome without forcing you to fake a feeling
The surprising physical health benefits of optimism
Why optimism is a learnable skill
The a one-minute end-of-day practice that rewires your brain to become more optimistic
Why awe is even more powerful than gratitude for shrinking anxiety
My top three strategies for becoming a real optimist starting today
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