Why You're Still the Default Parent (And The 7 Rules that Got Me Out)
No Guilt Mom | Overcoming Mom Guilt, Mental Load & Parenting Tips for MomsShow Notes
If you're carrying the mental load and wondering how to stop being the default parent, this episode is for you.
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Nobody sits down and decides to become the default parent. It happens one "I'll just grab it" at a time. In this solo episode, I share the seven rules I follow so I'm not the default parent in my house, from the "go ask Dad" rule I started when my kids were little to the overflowing trash I refuse to take out.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why being the default parent is a set of habits, not a personality trait
How to end the "I do everything" fight by seeing the real split in your house
Why doing your partner's jobs to be nice backfires, and what to say instead
The simple "go ask Dad" rule that retrains your kids
Why "it's just easier if I do it" is a trap, and how to let your partner do it his way
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Home Responsibility Calculator (free): see the real split in your house
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The Fair Play Deck by Eve Rodsky
The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn
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