Show Notes
“Always” and “never” feel so satisfying... But they’re almost always wrong. In this Gathering Room episode, I explore how absolutist language keeps us stuck in self-judgment, bad relationships, and susceptibility to false prophets. The antidote is one little phrase: “sometimes, maybe.” This cracks open curiosity, cools down conflict, and tells the truth. And once you loosen the grip of absolutes, you can finally find what’s genuinely always there: a deep, unshakeable peace at your core. Come listen.
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