90. Put on your own cape: Rewiring survival patterns, reclaiming worthiness & STEERing your future after separation
The Post-Separation Abuse PodcastShow Notes
If you’ve experienced high-conflict separation, coercive control, other forms of family violence or post-separation abuse, your brain has adapted to help you survive. But survival wiring can make advocacy, decision-making, and communication inside legal and family systems feel overwhelming. In this episode, Danielle Black explains the science of neuroplasticity and how protective parents can intentionally rebuild capacity, confidence, and internal stability - even when external outcomes feel ...
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