Success Secrets From a Secret Agent with Rebecca Fitzsimmons
One Part Lion - One Part Lamb with Stephen ScogginsShow Notes
Most of us grew up watching NCIS on TV and thought "it would just be so cool to be like these guys!" To be in the thick of things and solve puzzles and be in the service of the American people. The life must be so exciting.
But today's guest found herself being called away from that life, to serve in a different capacity and to find success there.
In this episode of Build, former NCIS agent turned holistic leadership coach Rebecca Fitzsimmons joins Stephen Scoggins to unpack what it means to lead with radical alignment and authenticity. From overcoming fear to redefining leadership, Rebecca shares powerful insights on emotional intelligence, personal growth, and the science of energy and presence.
Highlights of this episode: How do you know you are in the path to alignment?
The difference between hustle and focused intensity
How to lead from a place of wholeness, not insecurity
Whether you're leading a team, a business, a mission—or just yourself—this conversation is your reminder to slow down, go inward, and move forward with intention.
The power of your mind and thinking and where you're placing your focus, where you're attaching your meaning is where you're putting your life force. - Rebecca Fitzsimmons
Know more about Rebecca Fitzsimmons: https://tacticalharmony.com/ Connect with Rebecca and follow her: IG @tacticalharmony LinkedIn Rebecca Fitzsimmons
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