Show Notes
There's a kind of trauma that doesn't have a name yet. Birth trauma finally gets talked about. Postpartum depression finally gets talked about. But feeding trauma, what happens when your feeding journey ends in a way you never chose, still isn't validated. Nicola D'Souza is a breastfeeding counsellor and infant feeding practitioner on a mission to change that. Nicola's own feeding trauma began in NICU. She shares the story of a nurse who put her premature daughter's feeding tube back in without her there, and fed her formula despite a freezer full of Nicola's own breast milk. "I felt something snap inside me." What followed was PTSD, panic attacks, and a physical anxiety response that lasted months. But feeding trauma isn't only a breastfeeding story. Nicola's worked with mums who bottle fed by choice and still felt robbed of that experience, with mums of teenagers still carrying it from when their babies were tiny, and with women processing it thirty years later. This one is personal for me too, and it's not the first time. I've had feeding trauma more than once with my own kids, but the hardest was having to stop breastfeeding London during chemo, something I still find hard to say out loud. We get into the donated milk, wanting her to relatch, and the moment Nicola told me something about what my body was still doing for me mid-chemo that I did not see coming. If you've ever felt like your feeding story doesn't get to count as trauma, this one's for you. You can find Nicola on Instagram @infantfeedingcoach.jersey, or through her website here, I also share all of my health and fitness tips over on IG @danni.duncan_ so if you want more, make sure you join me over there. Or follow the podcast over at @lifewithdanniduncan If you need a push to take control of your health - download my app FIT by Danni Duncan.
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Chris is back on the couch and this one goes places… You never know what you're going to get in one of our joint episodes 😂 We start with the woman who sh*t herself mid-way through a HYROX event and kept going anyway… before somehow ending up in a full blown debate about sex after four kids. Chris has also been dealing with his own health scare behind the scenes, a gastroscopy, a strict new diet, and getting banned from his beloved energy drinks. We get into what happens to your mood and motivation when your gut health goes sideways, and why he was genuinely "not himself" for weeks. Then we get into the real conversation. Why sex drive changes so dramatically after kids, why men and women experience desire so differently, and the theory Chris came up with comparing married life to going from a Ferrari to a Toyota Corolla. It did not land the way he hoped. We talk about appreciation as the missing link, the text message from three years ago that turned Danni on more than anything since, why men often need sex to feel loved while women need to feel loved to want sex, and yes, we get into exactly how often we're actually having it. On the record. Numbers and all. By the end we've agreed we need to get an actual sexologist on the podcast, because clearly we need help! 😂 If you want more of this energy online then follow us over on IG @danni.duncan_ @chrisduncan7 My final retreat of 2026 is coming up next month and there aren’t many spaces left! Don’t miss your chance to join me and a group of incredible women in the gorgeous BlueGreen Sanctuary in Byron Bay for 3 nights of beautiful food, mindset and nutrition workshops, yoga, relaxation and more! Don’t miss out! If you need a push to take control of your health, download my app FIT by Danni Duncan or sign up for The Vitality Project