So You Think You’re an Adult: Boyfriend is selfish in bed

A woman in her late 20s expresses concern about her relationship, stating that while her partner treats her well outside the bedroom, he is selfish during intimate moments. She feels more like a vessel for his pleasure than an equal participant and worries that this might reflect deeper issues regarding his attitude towards women and intimacy. Despite her attempts to communicate her needs, she is unsure if he is genuinely interested in her satisfaction. The hosts suggest that she consider giving him another chance to improve but also emphasize the importance of clear communication about her desires.

In a separate discussion, a married man grapples with feelings of guilt after a drunken embrace with a colleague. Although nothing inappropriate occurred, he finds himself daydreaming about her and questions whether he should confess to his wife. The hosts advise against revealing his thoughts, suggesting that he needs to recognize that finding others attractive is normal and does not constitute a betrayal. They encourage him to focus on his commitment to his family rather than fixating on fleeting fantasies.

Lastly, a boyfriend struggles with his girlfriend's newfound confidence after she loses weight and begins wearing more revealing clothing. While he is proud of her transformation, he feels uncomfortable with the attention she attracts and worries about how others perceive them. The hosts agree that his discomfort stems from his own insecurities rather than any fault of his girlfriend. They advise him to support her confidence and communicate his feelings without attempting to control her choices in clothing.

Barbara Scully, Declan Buckley and Seán Moncrieff help tackle listener dilemmas!