Normal Curves: Sexy Science, Serious Statistics

Dating Wishlists: Are we happier when we get what we want in a mate?

Normal Curves: Sexy Science, Serious Statistics

Show Notes

Loyal, funny, hot — you’ve probably got a wish list for your dream partner. But does checking all your boxes actually lead to happily ever after? In this episode, we dive into a massive global study that put the “ideal partner” hypothesis to the test. Do people really know what they want, and does getting it actually make them happier? We explore surprising statistical insights from over 10,000 romantics in 43 countries, from mean-centering and interaction effects to the good-catch confounder. Along the way, we dig into dessert metaphors, partner boat-count regression models, and the one trait that people say doesn’t matter — but secretly makes them happiest.

Statistical topics Regression Random Slopes and Intercepts (Random Effects) in Regression Standardized Beta Coefficients in Regression Interaction Effects in Regression Mean Centering Exploratory Analyses

Methodological morals

“Good science bares it all.” “When the world isn't one size fits all, don't fit just one line; use random slopes and intercepts.”

References Eastwick PW, Sparks J, Finkel EJ, Meza EM, Adamkovič M, Adu P, Ai T, Akintola AA, Al-Shawaf L, Apriliawati D, Arriaga P, Aubert-Teillaud B, Baník G, Barzykowski K, Batres C, Baucom KJ, Beaulieu EZ, Behnke M, Butcher N, Charles DY, Chen JM, Cheon JE, Chittham P, Chwiłkowska P, Cong CW, Copping LT, Corral-Frias NS, Ćubela Adorić V, Dizon M, Du H, Ehinmowo MI, Escribano DA, Espinosa NM, Expósito F, Feldman G, Freitag R, Frias Armenta M, Gallyamova A, Gillath O, Gjoneska B, Gkinopoulos T, Grafe F, Grigoryev D, Groyecka-Bernard A, Gunaydin G, Ilustrisimo R, Impett E, Kačmár P, Kim YH, Kocur M, Kowal M, Krishna M, Labor PD, Lu JG, Lucas MY, Małecki WP, Malinakova K, Meißner S, Meier Z, Misiak M, Muise A, Novak L, O J, Özdoğru AA, Park HG, Paruzel M, Pavlović Z, Püski M, Ribeiro G, Roberts SC, Röer JP, Ropovik I, Ross RM, Sakman E, Salvador CE, Selcuk E, Skakoon-Sparling S, Sorokowska A, Sorokowski P, Spasovski O, Stanton SCE, Stewart SLK, Swami V, Szaszi B, Takashima K, Tavel P, Tejada J, Tu E, Tuominen J, Vaidis D, Vally Z, Vaughn LA, Villanueva-Moya L, Wisnuwardhani D, Yamada Y, Yonemitsu F, Žídková R, Živná K, Coles NA. A worldwide test of the predictive validity of ideal partner preference matching. J Pers Soc Psychol. 2025 Jan;128(1):123-146. doi: 10.1037/pspp0000524 Love Factually Podcast: https://www.lovefactuallypod.com/

Kristin and Regina’s online courses:

Demystifying Data: A Modern Approach to Statistical Understanding Clinical Trials: Design, Strategy, and Analysis Medical Statistics Certificate Program Writing in the Sciences Epidemiology and Clinical Research Graduate Certificate Program

Programs that we teach in:

Epidemiology and Clinical Research Graduate Certificate Program

Find us on: Kristin - LinkedIn & Twitter/X Regina - LinkedIn & ReginaNuzzo.com

(00:00) -

(00:00) - Intro

(04:57) - Actual dating profile wishlists vs study wishlists

(09:12) - Juicy paper details

(18:31) - What the study actually asked – wishlist, partner resume, relationship satisfaction

(24:10) - Linear regression illustrated through number of boats your partner has

(30:37) - Standardized regression coefficients illustrated through spouse height concordance

(34:52) - Good catch confounder: We all just want the same high-quality ice cream / mate

(39:46) - Does your personalized wishlist matter? Results

(42:01) - Wishlist regression interaction effects: like chocolate and peanut butter

(45:51) - Partner traits result in happiness bonus points

(49:51) - What do we say we want – and what really makes us happy? Surprise

(54:10) - Gender stereotypes and whether they held up

(56:51) - Random effects models and boats again

(59:30) - Other cool things they did

(01:00:41) - One-minute paper summary

(01:02:23) - Wrap-up, rate the claim, methodological morals

More from Normal Curves: Sexy Science, Serious Statistics

Oct 19, 2026

A famous Harvard researcher. A blockbuster finding about honesty. Suspicious data, failed replications, and a $25 million lawsuit. Welcome to one of the strangest research misconduct scandals in recent memory. In the first of two episodes about the Francesca Gino case, we investigate a famous experiment claiming that signing an honesty pledge at the top of a form makes people less likely to cheat. We follow the trail from a failed replication to some extraordinary detective work involving an Excel spreadsheet—and conduct a little statistical sleuthing of our own. Along the way, we discover how suspicious changes to a handful of observations can alter the story a scientific study tells. Statistical topics Statistical sleuthing Data integrity Data management Replication Sensitivity analysis Effect sizes Statistical significance Reproducibility Spreadsheets Conceptual replication Direct replication CalcChain Methodologic Morals “There's cleaning your data, and then there's laundering your data.” “Good data record keeping is still sexy. Version control, baby.”

Oct 5, 2026

Can you spot problems in a scientific study just by reading the published paper? We put our statistical sleuthing skills to the test with a famous study on procrastination and deadlines that was retracted more than 20 years after it was published. But were there clues hidden in plain sight in the published results—and would we have noticed anything suspicious at the time? We put on our data-detective hats and find a few statistical clues of our own before turning to Data Colada’s investigation of the original data, where the story gets even stranger. Along the way, we hunt for missing participants, question suspiciously enormous effects, meet some unlikely data twins, and discover why sometimes the best statistical tool is simply asking: Do these data behave like real people?

Sep 21, 2026

What happens when you discover that your published paper is wrong? Does retracting it ruin your reputation—or could owning the mistake actually make things better? In this episode, we meet the inaugural winners of the Ctrl-Z Awards, which recognize scientists for correcting or retracting their own work. Behavioral ecologist Kate Laskowski takes us inside a scientific detective story involving suspicious spider data, three retracted papers, and the fear that going public might tank her career. Then computational social scientist Alyssa Smith tells us how one small error in a figure led her to retract the paper at the center of her PhD and job talk. Along the way, we talk about data forensics, the stigma around retractions, and why self-correcting scientists are the heart of science.

Sep 7, 2026

Statistical power is one of the most important ideas in statistics—and one of the most misunderstood. In this episode, we explain what statistical power really means, why researchers need to think about it before they collect their data, and what goes wrong when they calculate “post hoc power” after the study is over. Along the way, we hunt for UFOs, test Kristin’s psychic abilities, explore the ethics of underpowered studies, and discover why post hoc power is really just a p-value wearing a fake mustache. Then statistician and powerlifter Andrew Althouse joins us for the inside story of a years-long scientific feud over post hoc power, where we discuss what happens when being wrong about statistics turns into doubling down, angry letters to the editor, and debates about how science corrects itself.

Aug 24, 2026

Can weed protect your brain as you get older? We unpack a study linking lifetime cannabis use to larger brain volumes and better cognitive test scores in older adults—and investigate how those findings became headlines urging readers to “pass the pot to grandma.” Along the way, we explore collapsing categorical variables, confounding, clinically versus statistically significant results, multiple testing, and how a press release subtly changed a story. We also meet permanently stoned mice, learn about Carl Sagan’s surprising connection to cannabis research, and discover how a single missing word can change the entire meaning of a study. Statistical topics Categorical variables Confounding Effect size False discovery rate Healthy volunteer bias Measurement error Multiple testing Observational studies Recoding variables Science communication Statistical vs practical significance

See all episodes →