Death And Ritual Washing (with Jessica Alpert)

In this episode of "Death And," licensed mortician Victor M. Sweeney sits down with fellow undertaker Steve Carberry to unpack what happens when a funeral director finds himself on the other side of the arrangement table—grieving, not guiding. Steve shares the deeply personal story of losing his wife Donella, revealing how all his professional preparedness fell away when grief struck at home, and how that firsthand experience has changed the way he cares for families. The episode explores the realities of widowhood, the strange comforts and grief ambushes that follow, and how being vulnerable with others can bridge the loneliness of loss. Through heartfelt stories and honest reflection, Victor and Steve illuminate what it means to walk in another’s shoes—and how, even as professionals, nobody is truly prepared for death when it becomes personal.

In this episode of "Death And," mortician and funeral director Victor M. Sweeney unpacks the theme of "dying well" through heartfelt stories and reflections on what it means to approach death with detachment, love, and acceptance. The episode features a return visit from friend of the show, Dave Berg, who shares candidly about his experience living with terminal cancer and how he’s preparing for what comes next. Together, they discuss what makes for a "good death," including letting go of grudges, prioritizing time with family, facing the unknown without fear, and both living and dying with intentionality, courage, and kindness.

In this episode of "Death And," funeral director Victor M. Sweeney sits down with author Joseph Pearce to explore reflections on mortality, literature, and the small rituals that give our days meaning. Joseph shares insights from the great books—including Tolkien's Lord of the Rings—and how an awareness of death can actually wake us up to the beauty of living. Victor discusses his own experiences as an undertaker in a small town, where death becomes an unlikely gateway to deeper community and contentment. Together, they highlight how facing the reality of death can make us more present, more compassionate, and better able to love those around us.

In this episode of "Death And," Victor M. Sweeney sits down with undertaker, embalmer, and graphic artist Amanda King to dive into the challenging intersection of death and mothering. The conversation explores the realities women face in the funeral industry, from juggling demanding work schedules with motherhood to navigating issues like breastfeeding, childcare, and workplace support. Amanda shares candid insights about why work-life balance can be a myth for funeral directors and highlights the need for industry-wide change, especially as more women enter—and often leave—the field. Their talk is both practical and deeply personal, weaving in stories of raising children around death, the importance of being honest with kids about mortality, and the unique ways funeral homes can become an extension of family life.

n this monologue episode of Death And, Victor M. Sweeney takes on a listener-submitted video — a bishop's directives tightening up Catholic funeral practice — and works through it clip by clip, weighing each ruling against his own years as a funeral director. He traces the faith's three-part rhythm of vigil, mass, and burial, explaining why folding a eulogy or a pre-mass visitation into that sequence breaks its motion from looking backward to looking forward, and why the church insists cremated remains stay whole and be interred within 30 days rather than scattered into keepsakes. Along the way he takes up harder questions too: whether a "celebration of life" leaves room enough for grief, and how he serves families whose beliefs don't match his own, arriving at the same conviction each time — that a good funeral, Catholic or secular, has to hold tears and laughter, mourning and hope, in the same hand.