Stop Asking Yourself the Wrong Questions: How to Unlock Deeper Fulfillment with Elliott Connie
Self-HelplessShow Notes
Delanie Fischer chats with Elliott Connie, Psychotherapist and renowned leader in the field of Solution Focused Brief Therapy, about shifting the questions we ask ourselves in order to transform our lives. They discuss the difference between comfort and happiness, how to go deeper in times of indecision and struggle, and simple practices and rituals that create lasting change.
Discussed in this episode:
SFBT and The Diamond Approach
Rejecting Perfect Timing Syndrome
Has What You Want Changed? And Can You Trust It?
The Worst Question We Ask Ourselves
Comfort vs. Happiness (and Why Comfort Can Kill Us)
Will Therapy As We Know It Become Obsolete?
Can't Do It In The Ideal Way? Do It A Little Bit.
What's Your Version of Sunday Pizza Night?
Capitalism, Social Media & Pursuing What Matters
The Toughest Life Lesson Elliott's Learned
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