Why Your Reward Charts Keep Backfiring (It's Not Your Fault)
No Guilt Mom | Overcoming Mom Guilt, Mental Load & Parenting Tips for MomsShow Notes
Rewards feel like good parenting. A sticker chart here, screen time for finished homework there, and suddenly your kid won't do anything without asking what they get. In this episode, JoAnn sits down with Dr. Özgür Bolat, author of The Reward Trap, to unpack why rewards quietly backfire and what actually builds the motivation you want.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why your reward systems stop working, even when you set them up perfectly
The hidden message every reward sends your child, and why it lands like a threat
The one situation where a reward genuinely helps, and how to use it without getting stuck
A small shift you can try tonight that beats any sticker chart
How rewards and praise quietly feed your own mom guilt, and what to do instead
Resources mentioned in this episode:
The Reward Trap by Dr. Özgür Bolat
Dr. Özgür Bolat on Instagram
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