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Sofie Hagen is Stuck in a 10-Year Dry Spell | WHGS Ep. 315

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Show Notes

This episode is DRY, listener! Sofie Hagen (Netflix, Fringe) is an award-winning Danish stand-up comedian, author, and podcaster that tours all around the world, but today they’re in the apartment for some SEX tourism because things have been dry! We discuss not having sex in 10+ years despite liking it, why that can be affected by the intersections of trauma, gender, and body image, and how you can absolutely positively FUMBLE the one opportunity to break said dry spell. Ashley gets called ugly. Lizzy prefers gay men.

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