Intimacy Coordinator

BACKGROUND CHECK: Skyler Higley

Intimacy Coordinator

Show Notes

It’s time to dip back into the archives for another Background Check! Skyler Higley was on Intimacy Coordinator this week, so we’re throwing back to the classic Bad Date story he told Joel and fellow guests Punkie Johnson and Josh Gondelman. Skyler finds himself in expert mode, but he’s more quickly than Higley. Enjoy this tale of Mormons, cigarettes, and Target parking lots, and don’t miss this week’s Intimacy Coordinator with Skyler, Asif Ali, and Femi Abe!

Skyler Higley: @skylerhigley, Help Me Be Black Podcast

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