Show Notes
In this episode, I explore why we can’t cue a dog into calmness, and why regulation must come before repetition, obedience, or skill-building. We look at:• What regulation actually means• Why arousal is often misunderstood• How “stubbornness” is frequently stress• Why training only sticks when the nervous system feels safe When we shift from control to co-regulation, everything changes. Training becomes clearer.Progress becomes steadier.And dogs feel understood, not managed. If this resonates, you’ll love the deeper nervous system work inside my memberships and resources. Regulation first. Always.
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