Show Notes
In this episode of the Meaningful People Podcast, Nachi Gordon sits down with Rabbi Tzadok Katz, a shadchan with over 23 years of experience, for one of the most honest and entertaining conversations about shidduchim you'll ever hear. From speed dating and picture sharing to the stigma facing working boys and the pressure that's been built into the system, Rabbi Katz pulls no punches about what's actually broken, and what's working better than people think. The conversation covers everything from how technology has completely transformed the shadchan's job, to why girls are maturing faster than boys and what needs to change, to the halacha of sharing information and how buried details may be behind most early divorces. Rabbi Katz also shares his philosophy on excitement, readiness, and why "getting the job done" is more complicated than it sounds. Whether you're a single, working with singles, or just fascinated by how the system actually works behind the scenes, this episode is a must-listen. This episode was made possible thanks to our sponsors: ► PZ Deals Download the app and never pay full price again! https://app.pz.deals/install/mpp _________________ ► Colel Chabad Pushka App The easiest way to give Tzedaka https://pushkapp.cc/meaningful _________________ ► EL AL From the Hebrew announcements to the Israeli atmosphere onboard, flying EL AL feels like Israel before you even land. With nonstop flights to Israel and Jewish comfort from takeoff to landing, there's nothing like hearing: "ברוכים הבאים לישראל." Book your next flight with EL AL: https://www.elal.com/eng/usa?utm\_source=meaningful\&utm\_medium=podcast\&utm\_campaign=gcny\_incoming\_usa\&cid=s:el%7Cm:what%7Ccp:gcny%7Cct:incoming%7Cau:usa _________________ ► Ness Vacation Homes EDEN GARDENS' LARGEST LUXURY HOME COLLECTION Handpicked, high-end homes available exclusively through Ness. OPTIONAL PROGRAM-LEVEL PESACH EXPERIENCE Upgrade your stay with a complete A–Z Pesach setup, including kitchen preparation, catered meals, and fully arranged details by Glatt Gourmet. https://nessvacationhomes.com/ _________________ ► Fine Toys and Gifts Have family in Israel? Send them something they'll actually love. Fine Toys and Gifts delivers American brand toys and gifts anywhere in Eretz Yisroel — LEGO, Playmobil, dolls, board games, and more — with flat rate shipping for just $12. https://www.finetoysandgifts.com _________________ ► Chasdei Lev Chasdei Lev sends truckloads of food and goods to thousands of Rebbes families across 27 communities nationwide. They're in the middle of a major campaign to expand their warehouse, and they need your help to get there. https://www.charidy.com/ChasdeiLev?utm\_source=MM&utm\_medium=podcast _________________ ► UJA UJA is at the center of Long Island's Jewish community with the shared purpose of strengthening our Jewish future. https://ujafedny.org/five-towns _________________ ► 12 Stones Realty Discover 12 Stones — a luxury private home community in the breathtaking Jerusalem Hills, combining nature, serenity, and elevated living just minutes from Jerusalem. Spacious homes, stunning views, and a one-of-a-kind family atmosphere. https://12-stones.co.il/landing/?utm\_source=MPP _________________ ► Town Appliance Visit the website or message them on WhatsApp https://www.townappliance.com https://bit.ly/Townappliance\_whatsapp
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