TPP 509: Martina Nova on What Couples Get Wrong About Parenting Alignment
Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent ChildrenShow Notes
Today we’re talking about something that can make or break the parenting experience: how we align with our partners in raising our kids. My guest is clinical counselor Martina Nova, author of the new book Same Page Parenting, where she offers a practical framework for helping couples move out of blame and into more honest, connected conversations about parenting.
In our conversation, Martina and I explore what gets in the way of alignment, from our own histories and fears to the added layers of neurodivergent parenting, navigating differences around discipline, digital habits, and decision-making, and what it takes to stay connected as our kids grow into adulthood. Martina shares thoughtful questions and practical strategies to help couples better understand each other’s perspectives and build a more intentional, collaborative approach to parenting.
About Martina Nova
Martina Nova is a Registered Clinical Counsellor based in British Columbia and the founder of NovaCare Therapy. She specializes in working with individuals, parents and couples navigating trauma, ADHD, people-pleasing, and early attachment patterns. Martina helps couples move out of blame and into more honest conversations about parenting, emotional needs, and relationship dynamics.
In addition to her clinical work, Martina is an author and educator who creates practical tools to help couples communicate more openly about the realities of family life. Her work highlights how many parenting conflicts are less about discipline strategies and more about the histories, fears, and values each partner brings into parenting.
Martina regularly shares mental health education through media, speaking, and social platforms, helping parents feel less alone in the complexities of modern parenting.
Things you'll learn from this episode
How intentional communication and aligning values create a stronger foundation for parenting and partnership
Why using therapy-informed questions helps parents unpack their upbringing, beliefs, and evolving identities
How practical tools like weekly check-ins and family-wide conversations foster connection and collaboration
Why recognizing and supporting neurodivergence in both parents and children is essential for healthy dynamics
How navigating outside pressures, social media, and autonomy supports long-term trust with kids
Why maintaining the parent-child relationship into adulthood requires ongoing reflection, flexibility, and shared tools
Resources mentioned
Martina Nova’s website, Novacare Therapy
Same Page Parenting: Align with Your Partner to Raise Happy, Confident, and Resilient Kids by Martina Nova
Novacare Therapy Resources Page
Martina Nova on Instagram
The Gottman Institute
Dr. Ross Greene on Using CPS with Very Young Kids (Tilt Parenting podcast)
Dr. Ken Ginsburg on Lighthouse Parenting — Loving Guidance for an Enduring Bond (Tilt Parenting podcast)
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