EP.16 Good Friends and Full Honesty will Level Up Your Dating Life with Jamie Haigh & Blake Roberts (Three Percent Co)
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Bridgett and Lauren sit down with Jamie and Blake of the Three Percent Podcast, two therapists, friends, and husbands whose work centers on what it means to be a safe, embodied man. The conversation moves through male friendship, attachment, the difference between knowing your story and doing the work, and the quiet ways loneliness shapes how a person dates. It is a grounded, honest look at what healthy formation actually takes.
**WARNING: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS A STORY ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE*
Bridgett opens with a phrase that becomes the through line of the conversation: eroticized loneliness. The ache of being unseen does not disappear when it goes unnamed. It travels into the body and shows up in dating, in sex, in the way a person reaches for a partner to carry what only community can hold. Jamie and Blake speak to this with the kind of clarity that comes from having lived it, naming the difference between social proximity and the experience of being known. Their framework rests on what they call the 3%, the small part of ourselves we keep hidden that quietly drives the rest. Real formation, they explain, is not finishing the work alone and then arriving polished into a relationship. It is the slower practice of integrity in connection, learning to bring your honest self forward, letting the people closest to you point you back to your person, and setting boundaries that draw someone in rather than push them out. Healing, they remind us, happens in relationship, not in preparation for it. For anyone dating, this conversation reorients what it means to be ready. Readiness is not the absence of wounds. It is the willingness to be honest about them and to keep choosing connection anyway. What to pay attention to is whether the people in your life are forming you toward wholeness or around it, and whether you are bringing your heart into your relationships or only your strategy. Trust what you are noticing. Move with clarity. Let yourself be known.
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Want help applying this to your dating life? If something in this episode resonated with you, here are two ways to go deeper depending on what you need:
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