EP 005: The Identity Shift After Becoming a Mum | Who You Are vs Who You Were
Hot Messes, Big VisionsShow Notes
In this conversation, Nikki & Soph discuss the challenges of parenting, including the impact of daylight savings on their energy levels, Nikki's decision to quit a job for family commitments, and the ongoing identity crisis that comes with motherhood. They share personal experiences of postpartum struggles, the difficulty of balancing exercise with parenting, and humorous messy moments, such as dealing with an ant infestation and the challenges of keeping a clean home. The conversation highlights the complexities of modern parenting and the shared experiences that come with it.
Takeaways Daylight savings can significantly affect energy levels. Quitting a job can be a difficult yet necessary decision for family. Parenting often leads to an identity crisis as roles shift. Postpartum life can bring unexpected challenges and changes. Finding time for exercise is tough when balancing parenting and work. Messy moments are a common part of family life. It's important to share parenting struggles with others. Maintaining a clean home can be overwhelming with young children. Food rules in the house can be hard to enforce with kids. Parenting is a journey filled with ups and downs.
Chapters 00:00 Surviving the Week: Daylight Savings and Fatigue 05:11 The Transformation: Life Changes After Kids 12:19 Messy Moments: Ant Infestations and Parenting Chaos
Find your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
More from Hot Messes, Big Visions
We finally got Jacqlin Richards on the pod and she did not hold back. Parenting Alchemist. Award-winning educator. Author of the best book title we have ever heard: F*ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour. Jacqlin used to be the fun police, the sugar police, the screen police. Blow-drying her hair before a run. Holding it all together while falling apart behind closed doors. Now she actually enjoys her kids, and in this episode she tells us exactly what changed. We talk about: ✨ the perfection trap and why it keeps mums isolated ✨ the love languages exercise her whole family did (steal this one) ✨ why losing your sh*t isn't the problem, the repair is what counts ✨ screens, fear, and getting your kids' buy-in instead of policing them Her book hits Amazon on 28 July and there are a handful of signed pre-order copies left. Pre-order also gets you free access to her live workshop series. Link in bio, or head to jacqlinrichards.com/preorder. Listen wherever you get your podcasts. Then share it with your village 💛 @jacqlinrichards #HotMessesBigVisions #ParentingPodcast #NZPodcast #RealParenting #MumLife #TheVillageCo Find your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This week we're joined by Nicole Retter, founder of PAM (Personal Admin Manager), one of New Zealand's top-ranked apps and a product built entirely from lived chaos.
What would you actually do if your baby choked right now?
Nobody talks about the bit in between. Not the exciting launch, not the "we made it" moment. Just the long, unglamorous stretch where you're building something real while running on broken sleep and blind faith. That's where Nikki and Sophia are right now, and this episode they're not pretending otherwise.
Renata Wiles is the founder of ROAM with Kids, an app that helps NZ parents find places to go with their kids, complete with parent reviews, age-based filters, and local events.