What Does Genuine Love Actually Look Like?

What does genuine love actually look like? It may have less to do with how someone makes you feel and more to do with whether you can truly see them, allow them to be themselves, and continue meeting them as both of you change.

I also explore what happens when fear of losing someone keeps us from fully enjoying the relationship we have today, how relationships teach us who we are becoming, and the difference between healthy compromise and losing yourself. I also look at what can exist underneath betrayal and affairs, including the desire to reconnect with a version of yourself that feels lost.

I talk about:

• What genuine love looks like beyond attraction and chemistry

• Loving someone without abandoning yourself

• Why we have to keep meeting our partners as they change

• The fear of losing someone and how it can steal the present

• Why the small, ordinary moments in a relationship matter

• Asking what a relationship is teaching you to become

• The difference between compromise and self-abandonment

• How relationships can teach us to expand or shrink ourselves

• What can be underneath affairs and betrayal

• The different emotional realities of the betrayed partner, the person who cheated, and the affair partner

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