Show Notes
In this episode Sally and Bec unpack one of the most loaded comments in baby sleep: that wanting better nights means you are trying to clock off from parenting. They agree with the comment, then explain why that agreement is the reason they help families sleep at all. They talk about what responsive overnight parenting actually looks like, and why a better-rested family is a more present one.
What you'll learn: - Why wanting more sleep does not make you selfish or less responsive - How to tell a genuine overnight need from a wake you can gently resettle - How sleep deprivation affects safety, mental health and relationships - Why there are no medals for exhaustion - The hidden privilege inside a lot of anti-sleep-training advice
Chapters: 00:10 The comment that started it 01:40 "Parenting doesn't stop when the sun goes down" 03:07 The idea that better sleep means clocking off 06:36 Martyrdom confused with good parenting 09:20 Hallucinations, anxiety and the real cost of broken nights 15:40 A family who changed things without abandoning their baby 17:45 Why understanding the why behind wakes is parenting 28:27 No medals for exhaustion, and parents matter too 32:32 The privilege behind one-size-fits-all advice 35:53 Our final take
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