What's Gaslighting? How to Spot the Subtle Signs You're Being Manipulated Part One [382]
Flying FreeShow Notes
Today we’ll talk about one of the most disorienting experiences Christian women in emotionally abusive marriages face: gaslighting.
But we aren’t going to just define what gaslighting is. I’m going to break it down into all the tiny parts and give you some specific stories so you can see exactly what’s going on and WHY. You’ll learn three specific tactics gaslighters use, why they use them, and what you can do to stay grounded in your own reality when someone is working hard to pull you out of it.
Key Takeaways: Why someone can sound completely loving and caring while actually doing something deeply harmful to you The hidden reason your concerns keep disappearing from conversations before they ever get resolved What a "joke" has to do with control, and why your body's reaction is not a character flaw The psychological mechanism you share with a slot machine, and what it's actually costing you The one shift that strips a gaslighting tactic of all its power, without you having to win a single argument Get Today’s Free Resource:
🧐 Are you wondering what is happening inside your own painful and confusing marriage? I wrote a book just for you called Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Get a free chapter by going to isitmebook.com
I will also send you my weekly Hope Letters for Christian women in emotionally and spiritually abusive marriages.
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