Changing Dating for Neurodivergents through the Mattr App-Jamie Johnston
Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D.Show Notes
During this episode with Jamie Johnston you will learn more about how the Mattr app is making dating more enjoyable for neurodivergent folks and those with mental health challenges. In addition, Jamie talks about why he is so passionate about his work and how understanding his dyslexia and AuDHD is helping him assist others on their on-line dating journey. Other topics discussed include:
We are taught that anything that can be "perceived" shouldn’t be shared on dating apps or while dating. During the pandemic vulnerability and transparency became more acceptable on social media, but not on dating apps. Vulnerability first is the focus of the Mattr app. It is an online dating platform where you can feel safe to share whatever you want. Dating in a digital space can be very challenging for neurodivergent people. Mattr is very user-friendly for people who have mental health challenges and/or are neurodivergent. The app is based on research and psychology/psychiatry. Dealing with rejection sensitivity dysphoria and dopamine hits through swiping or ghosting. The app uses colors that are comfortable for Autistic individuals and they have a "time out toggle". No swiping is involved and each person is given 6 matches. Some of the biggest challenges in dating and maintaining a relationship include: emotional regulation; rejection densitivity dysphoria; hyperfocus on a person or your special interest. ND folks may experience Inherent shame. Things to look for that may help you understand that someone is neurodivergent: reactions to the space you are in and sensory issues; hyperfocusing on a topic/infodumping; executive functioning challenges- like planning a date; different communication styles; emotional intensity (differences in emotional reciprocity; differences in physical intimacy preferences. “Be for someone, not for everyone” Why the Mattr app was created and different resources available through the app. Partnerships with lots of businesses in London, also have offsite events.
You can learn more about the app here. They are hosting a special live event in London on June 25th. You can also follow Jamie on IG @Dating withJamie_
To learn more about the resources Mona has available for neurodiverse couples and individuals in neurodiverse love relationships click here.
More from Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D.
It has been an honor and a privilege for me to have hosted and co-hosted the Neurodiverse Love podcast since the fall of 2020. I will be forever grateful to my dear friend Olga, who agreed to start this podcast journey with me in the middle of the pandemic, and to all my co-hosts who have partnered with me along the way: Manecia, Greg, Nicole and Bronwyn.
This wonderful conversation is one of the amazing panel discussions from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference.
The four part Neurodiverse Love Docuseries shows how 4 neurodiverse couples navigate different communication styles, emotional needs, sensory and physical intimacy differences, and employment and special interests. In addition, three therapists/coaches who work with neurodiverse couples share strategies, tools and insights that can help neurodiverse couples navigate their strengths, challenges and differences. Check out the first 2 episodes here: https://www.neurodiverselove.com/the-documentary
The intro and first two episodes of the Neurodiverse Love Docuseries are available here. The first episode addresses communication differences and the second episode focuses on emotional reciprocity.
This episode is a very informative panel discussion from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference. The following individuals participated in this conversation and I hope you find the information they shared helpful.