Show Notes
Join host Amanda de Cadenet on The Conversation where she interviews her friend, the talented Australian actress Phoebe Tonkin. Amanda brings her signature charm to a short-form questionnaire, posing fun and thought-provoking questions about Phoebe’s life, career, and personal preferences. From insights into her acting journey to the delightful revelation of her favorite cake, this episode is filled with candid moments and intriguing tidbits.
In This Episode:
[0:09] Phoebe explains a couple of ways she has changed for the better over the past ten years
[2:16] Phoebe reveals how she views her idea of freedom
[3:02] Phoebe discusses what gives her hope
[3:47] Feeling content is how Phoebe defines success, what people ask her when they discover she is an actress and what tells her most about a person
[5:53] Phoebe reveals what part of her emotional well-being would she like to grow in
[7:39] Phoebe shares her dream of the next “story” she wants to tell. She tells about her directing a short film in 2019
[10:41] Phoebe talks about her favorite dessert
Key Takeaways:
Self-care is essential to being your best self. A good example is putting your oxygen mask on first when on an airplane and then helping others. You can help others because you’ve first taken care of yourself.
Self-deprecating doesn’t show humility as much as it does a lack of confidence, which doesn’t necessarily make you proud. A simple thank you works perfectly in many situations.
Being the director or producer of a film gives you more agency over the project than an actor, allowing greater creativity.
Resources:
Phoebe Tonkin's Instagram
Phoebe Tonkin’s Website
About This Podcast:
The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet. Follow Amanda on Substack at amandadecadenet.substack.com.
Biography:
Phoebe Jane Elizabeth Tonkin was born on July 12, 1989 in Sydney, Australia to Nicholas and Jane Tonkin. She has one younger sister named Abby. Phoebe began performing at the age of four, beginning with dancing courses in classical ballet, hip hop, contemporary dance, and tap. As a child, Phoebe attended Loreto Kirribilli, a Catholic school for girls, and later graduated from Queenswood School for Girls. Despite her love of dance, by the age of ten, she knew exactly what she wanted to be - an actress. Two years later Phoebe began courses at the Australian Theatre for Young People at the Wharf Theatre. Her credits include the role of Helena in Shakespeare's A Midsummer Night's Dream and Don Pedro in Much Ado About Nothing, also by Shakespeare. Phoebe's big break in Australia came from her co-leading role as Cleo Sertori in the television series H2O: Just Add Water which follows the lives of three teenage girls who magically turn into mermaids when water touches their skin. Tonkin and her fellow cast members improved their swimming abilities during pre-production of the series. The show aired for
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