Show Notes
You don’t need to hide your emotions—but your kids shouldn’t have to carry them either. In this episode, I show you how to actually feel your feelings without making your child responsible for them. Learn how to stay honest, regulated, and grounded in real time using the BEND tool—so your emotions don’t turn into pressure, guilt, or fear for your kids. This is the difference between modeling emotions… and offloading them. In the second half of the episode, Office Hours, we meet with Jennifer who is struggling with pseudomutuality in her marriage. Our conversation answers the question, how do I manage my feelings towards my partner in front of my kids? Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com
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