It Was Never You: The Beliefs and Identities Standing Between You and Your Skills - 138

That long list of struggles isn't one flaw. It's thirteen skills, and every one of them can be developed. In this episode, DrB separates ADHD symptoms from executive function skills, walks through all thirteen in plain language, and explains why the order they're built in matters. You'll also get a simple prediction exercise to start practicing metacognition today. There's nothing broken here. Some skills just haven't been taught yet. Key Points Covered The difference between the three ADHD...

Ever followed the directions perfectly and still not gotten the result? In this episode, DrB explains pre-skills: the skills you need before you can build the skills you want. She walks through the three that matter most: managing yourself in time, banishing procrastination, and making decisions with a values-based strategy. If it hasn't worked, it was never you. It was a missing skill, and skills can be learned. Key Points Covered What a pre-skill is, with the two-wheeler and balance exampl...

Slept eight hours and still feel like you're running on empty? ADHD burnout is different from ordinary burnout — it's the cumulative cost of constantly compensating for a brain the world wasn't built around, and "just rest more" doesn't fix it. DrB explains why ADHD burnout hits differently, how it shows up before you even realize you're in it, and the structural skills that actually prevent it. Key Points Covered Why ADHD burnout is different from general workplace burnout — the "ADHD tax" ...

Can't start the task, or can't stop redoing it? Both get called laziness, but they're driven by opposite fears — and treating them the same way is why so many fixes don't stick. DrB breaks down the real difference between ADHD procrastination and ADHD perfectionism, how the two feed each other into one paralyzing loop, and the specific skills that interrupt each one. Key Points Covered Why ADHD procrastination is a task-initiation and emotional avoidance issue, not a time management issueWhy ...

Impulse buys at midnight. Bills that quietly turn into late fees. A banking app you haven't opened in weeks. If ADHD has ever made money feel like a moral test you keep failing, this episode is for you. DrB breaks down why ADHD brains struggle with money — dopamine, time blindness, working memory — and shares five practical skills for building a system that works with your brain instead of against it. Key Points Covered Why ADHD brains are especially prone to impulsive spending and financial ...