180 How to spice up masturbation: A Sex Therapist's top tips- Part one

In this episode, Emily talks with Amanda Dames, the Kink Consultant, about kink, dominance, and how to explore desires safely and authentically. They discuss: Amanda’s journey from working as a dominatrix to becoming a sexologist and coach Different dominant styles, including soft dom, caretaker, and disciplinarian Why dominance is a skill How to explore kink without pretending to be someone you’re not Consent, negotiation, boundaries, and safe words What to do when partners have different interests in kink Get the Ultimate Sexual Wellness Bundle (all my resources/ebooks!!) Want 10% off store products? Use code thatsorgasmic10 Submit your anonymous question for the podcast Anonymous question link: https://www.sexualwellnesscentre.com/podcast FOLLOW US on Instagram @thatsorgasmic Send your comments, questions and stories to: [email protected] Interested in therapy? Book your free discovery call HERE with Emily at The Sexual Wellness Centre Amanda's Links: Website: https://www.amandadames.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thekinkconsultant/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_kinkconsultant YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thekinkconsultant Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-kink-consultant/id1766435920 Guide for couples with mismatched desire to have more open and honest conversations in a safe framework: https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1 BDSM Menu for couples who are curious to explore each other's kinks: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Shame around queer desire does not disappear just because you want it to. If you were raised in the church and are now trying to explore dating women for the first time, this episode gives you a practical way to untangle what was taught to you from what you actually want. Emily, a sex and relationship therapist, answers a listener question from a woman in her early 30s who feels stuck between curiosity and shame. Emily breaks the problem into two parts: how to unpack religious shame, and how to take real, manageable steps toward dating women.

Orgasms are not a finish line - they’re a state of being, and most women/AFAB have been taught the wrong way to access them. Sex and relationship therapist Emily sits down with sensual embodiment coach Emma Swain to unpack why so many people feel blocked, disappointed, or “not orgasmic,” and how to move from pressure and performance into real, sustained pleasure. Emma challenges the idea that orgasm is just a physical peak and breaks it open into something much bigger: emotional release, energetic expansion, nervous system safety, and full-body surrender. If you’ve ever felt like your body “doesn’t work,” only orgasms with one specific method, or rushes straight to a quick climax and drops off, this conversation will shift the way you think about pleasure completely. Emma’s Instagram

Women are being told to wait, stay quiet, and keep their desires small, but what if pleasure could be something you choose on your own terms? Anna Grosman, founder of Her Confidant, shares how she built Australia’s only female-led agency offering curated intimate experiences for women and couples, and why more women than ever are quietly reclaiming intimacy, confidence, and connection. From her own journey growing up in a conservative family to creating two businesses in this space, Anna opens up about the stigma she’s fighting, the women she serves, and the life-changing conversations happening before a booking ever takes place. She explains how Her Confidant works, why every client begins with a deeply personal consultation, and how the experience is designed to feel safe, respectful, and fully tailored from start to finish. You’ll discover: What sexual experiences at Her Confidant look like How Anna matches clients with companions using intuition, experience, and careful screening The role trauma awareness, consent, and trust play in creating a safe sexual experience Why some clients say this experience has done more for them than years of therapy How intimacy, touch, and pleasure can support confidence at every age Anna Grosman is the founder of Her Confidant, Australia’s only female-led agency providing curated intimate experiences for women and couples.

Welcome to the first episode of Ask a Sexologist, where listeners send in their questions, stories and dilemmas, and Emily, a sex and relationship therapist, weighs in. Today's episode explores catfishing. Submit your anonymous question for the podcast