#36 Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... and it's All Small Stuff (Richard Carlson, 1997)
Will & Luke DiscussShow Notes
This week we discuss Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... and it's All Small Stuff. A book which was full of nuggets of wisdom around how to keep perspective on life when caught up in day to tasks and worries. We discuss how to make peace with imperfection, how to stop our thoughts from snow balling and how we are what we practice the most. Plus much more.
Hope you enjoy.
Will & Luke.
00:00 Introductions (A book about perspective) (Ideas from ACT, CBT, Stoicism, Buddhism)
04:50 Altering our life by altering our attitude. Don't sweat the ball stuff 08:35 Watching the snowballing of your thoughts (the power of thoughts)(Transforming relationship with out thoughts)
13:40 Accepting all aspects of yourself - compassion
14:30 Try to take a broad perspective on life during the day to day (how to engage with others) (Listening to those closest to us)
18:40 Choosing your battles wisely and If someone throws you a ball you don't have to catch it (Boundaries)
22:00 Making peaceful with imperfection. What is success? Perfection? Balancing wider life purposeful when dealing with small stuff. Fixed vs Growth mindset. Expectations.
29:45 Lighten Up. Be sincere not Serious. Life as play.
33:25 Becoming an early rise and shifting morning routines. Structure, self responsibility accountability.
37:30 Remember, you become what you practice most (what behaviours and reactions are we cultivating in day to day moments)
42:10 Checking you ego and checking perspective in response to others
46:45 Wrap-up and final reflections
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