Show Notes
This week's chat is super personal! My mum, Jan, shares her experience of having four very different babies (born in the 70s, 80s and 90s) - we discuss breastfeeding, bed-sharing and responding to cries in the night. In 1978 my mum was 21 years old and had just given birth to her son. Six weeks later she found herself moving from a small town in NW England to the Yemen. She was breastfeeding and sharing a bedroom her her baby, and her own mother was appalled. I wanted to talk to my mum a little more about her experiences of early motherhood and how it changed with each subsequent baby. We talked a lot about her adventures but also compared our experiences as different generations of mothers.
Has the internet made things better or worse for new parents? Do babies sleep better nowadays, or worse? What gems of wisdom does my mum want to share with parents in 2022 and what does she wish she'd known back then?
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