Ep 17 - Newborn Sleep Myth #7: They'll Grow Out Of It
Surviving Tiny Humans: 10 Minute Triage for Newborns & New ParentsShow Notes
This is the last myth in the series — and it’s the most comforting one. Which is exactly what makes it the most dangerous.
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Some babies do grow out of bad sleep on their own. Sleep naturally improves as babies develop, stomachs get bigger, and circadian rhythms mature. So this one isn’t a flat-out myth. It’s a half-truth. And half-truths are harder to push back on than outright lies — because there’s just enough truth in them to keep you waiting.
The problem is that biology creates better conditions for sleep. It doesn’t teach sleep skills. And there are long-term studies showing that babies who never learn to sleep independently are more likely to struggle with sleep as children AND as adults.
In this episode I’m breaking down the milestone goalposts trap — the loop where there’s always a developmental reason to wait just a little longer — and being honest about what months of waiting actually costs a family. I’m also giving you three specific signs that tell you whether you’re genuinely in “this might resolve” territory, or whether waiting is just making things harder.
In this episode: ∙ Why this lie is so easy to believe — and why survivorship bias plays a huge role ∙ What the evidence actually says about infant sleep and long-term outcomes ∙ The milestone goalposts loop — and how to recognize when you’re in it ∙ When waiting genuinely makes sense vs. when it’s just hope with a due date ∙ Three signs it’s time to stop waiting and do something
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This is Episode 7 of 7 in the Sleep Training Lies series. If you’re new here, start at Episode 4.
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