Sex After Motherhood: How to Reclaim Desire and Intimacy | Caroline Hood
Sex Advice for Seniors PodcastShow Notes
What I Discussed With Caroline Hood - Why couples need to stay connected as lovers as well as parents. - How motherhood can affect desire, identity and intimacy. - Why women's desire may not disappear but simply get pushed aside. - What happens when you're "touched out" from caregiving. - How ageing and changing bodies can affect sexual confidence. - Why communication matters when a couple's sexual dynamic changes. - How women can reconnect with their sexual selves.
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Show Notes Motherhood can change the way couples see themselves and each other. The shift from partners to parents can be gradual, and sex and intimacy can easily move down the list. Caroline Hood, a sex therapist, clinical social worker and mother of three, talks about staying lovers alongside being parents, reclaiming desire, and what happens when caregiving and changing bodies affect the way we experience sex. Pasted text We also talk about feeling "touched out," losing touch with your sexual identity, and why women shouldn't have to give up their sexuality simply because they are getting older.
Key Takeaways - Becoming a parent doesn't mean losing your identity as a lover. - Sexual intimacy often needs to be intentional, especially when life gets busy. - Desire can be pushed aside without actually disappearing. - Feeling "touched out" is something couples need to be able to talk about. - Aging doesn't mean giving up pleasure or feeling desirable. - Reconnecting with your sexual self can happen at any stage of life.
About Caroline Hood Caroline Hood is a sex therapist and clinical social worker, as well as a mother of three. Her work focuses on desire, sexuality and relationships, drawing on both her professional experience and her own experience of motherhood and long-term partnership. She is also the author of the forthcoming book Sex Begets Sex: Reclaiming Desire as an Act of Female Empowerment.
About Suzanne Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast about sex, intimacy, pleasure, and relationships in later life. Through her podcast, newsletter, and community, Suzanne challenges the idea that sex has an expiry date and encourages people to stay curious about their bodies and sexual wellbeing at every age.
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