Show Notes
Many times when we attempt to deal with the issues we are facing whether that is overeating, not working out, addictions, inability to stop yelling at our kids or whatever else we could put on the list, we need to get to the root. All the behaviors are just symptoms of soil and root issues and not the problem itself.
Most of the work I see people attempt to do is behavioral management. This doesn't get to the roots. It's cutting off the fruit. Which means that eventually the old fruit will be produced at some point again. You can take that to the bank!
Today I share how to get to the roots so you no longer produce the fruit that you don't like.
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