314 — Beating Yourself Up? The 10-Second Play That Outsmarts Your Inner Critic
Mentally Stronger with Therapist Amy MorinShow Notes
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Have you ever rewritten an email five times before hitting send because you keep telling yourself it's not quite right? Or beaten yourself up over something you said and convinced yourself you've ruined everything? That's your inner critic .
We all have one—and while that little voice is meant to protect you, it can easily get in the way of thinking, feeling, and doing your best.
Fortunately, you don't have to silence it. There's a simpler play that takes the power out of that voice almost instantly.
Some of the things I talk about are:
The story of how my inner critic almost talked me out of doing something important this past week
Why your inner critic isn't actually trying to ruin your life (and what's really going on)
The fascinating research on writers with imposter syndrome who became more productive simply by naming the voice in their head
The psychological concept of "self-distancing" and why it helps you make better decisions, regulate emotions, and take action even when you're scared
A 3-step play for naming your inner critic
The critical pitfall to avoid when naming your inner critic
Why the goal isn't to eliminate that voice—it's to stop letting it run your life
Related Episodes
128 — 5 Ways to Deal with Negative Thoughts So You Can Train Your Brain to Become Mentally Stronger
284 — Overthinking? Here’s the 3-Word Fix You Need to Stop the Spiral
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