Show Notes
Why do we commit—and why do some of us break that commitment? Psychologist Glenn Hutchinson explores the unconscious impulses, clashing brain systems, and limits of self-control behind infidelity in Unfaithful Minds: The Science and Psychology of Infidelity. Then historian Stephanie Coontz challenges our nostalgia for “traditional” relationships in For Better and Worse: The Complicated Past and Challenging Future of Marriage, revealing how marriage has continually evolved—and why today’s more equal partnerships can be both more fulfilling and more demanding. Together, they offer a bracing look at love, loyalty, and the complicated psychology of staying together.
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