Show Notes
Towards the end of last year, a few things happened that triggered my thinking around how we tend to make assumptions about others and about things around us.
One of these things was the 'hell yes / f*ck no' mantra, which I believe may lead to losing opportunities that may intiially not seem like a 'hell yes', though may become one later.
Thanks to Todd Kashdan, I have picked up five criteria, which I find useful when deciding what opportunities to pursue!
Similarly, there have been a few things that triggered my strength of counterpoint, particularly around categories and fitting in.
I would love to know your thoughts, what assumptions do you make? What categories do you put yourself in?
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