"You're Doing Better Than You Think" | Dr Martha on Parenting, Psychology and the Early Years
Best BeginningsShow Notes
Most parents questioning whether they are getting it right are already doing well enough. That is not reassurance. That is what the science shows. Dr Martha is a clinical psychologist with over 20 years of experience working with children and families. She trained at UCL and the Tavistock, spent 18 years in the NHS and has built an Instagram community of over 290,000 people. Her Sunday Times number one bestselling book is How to Be the Grown Up. In this episode we talk about what babies actually need when they cry, why you only need to be attuned to your child 30 to 50% of the time, how to handle tantrums in public, why your love does not get halved when a second child arrives, why it is never too late to repair your relationship with your child and what she would do if she had a magic wand for parenting policy. Best Beginnings is the podcast from Babyzone, the early years charity supporting families from pregnancy to five. Subscribe for weekly conversations with the researchers, practitioners and policymakers thinking most deeply about how to give every child the best start.
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