Show Notes
If you’ve ever wondered why you settle, sabotage, or shut down.. this episode tells you the truth.
Today on Almost Adulting, Violetta is joined by Jay Shetty - New York Times best-selling author, host of On Purpose, former monk, and one of the most influential voices in self-improvement, emotional healing, and modern spirituality. In this powerful conversation, Jay and Violetta dive into: the limits we place on ourselves (and each other) fear as an unformed boundary why timelines sabotage our growth the real meaning of love (beyond romance) how to build connection through vulnerability and how to rewrite the beliefs holding you back
If you’re craving clarity, emotional growth, deeper love, or a fresh start, this is an episode worth revisiting. Some conversations deserve a second life. and don't forget to leave me a 5 star review on the apple podcast app when you're done listening!!!!
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: • 00:00 Intro • 02:15 The journey that took 10 years • 05:08 Deadlines vs. destiny • 06:13 Worst advice Jay ever received • 07:52 “We project our limits onto other people.” • 10:46 The three cancers of the mind • 12:45 How to change your feelings • 16:23 Best advice Jay ever received • 21:36 Why beginners should move fast • 28:19 The two lies we tell ourselves • 33:35 What unforgiveness does to you • 36:13 Different forms of love • 38:46 Is unconditional love real? • 41:26 Loving as a skill • 46:16 Fear as an unformed boundary • 50:05 The power of being alone • 53:08 Win or lose together • 58:52 What it really takes to make love work • 01:03:41 The 8 Rules of Love • 01:06:19 The myth of perfection • 01:08:35 Connect with the people who want you
AND THAT IS ALL FOR 2025!!! WE WILL BE BACK IN 2026!! <3
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