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As Pride Month 2026 approaches, we wanted to resurface this episode and send it to everyone so that they know exactly how to be a great ally to the rainbow community. If you consider yourself supportive of the LGBTIQA+ community but aren’t always sure what meaningful allyship looks like in practice, this episode is for you. In this solo episode of Lead to Soar, Michelle Redfern speaks directly to leaders, managers, and colleagues who want to move beyond passive support and take responsibility for creating safer, more inclusive workplaces for people who are trans, gender diverse, non-binary, and queer. This is not about perfect language or performative gestures. It’s about noticing harm, calling it out, and using your position to reduce others' risk. Michelle shares five practical ways leaders can be better allies at work, including how silence can cause harm, how power operates in everyday moments, and why allyship is a leadership behaviour, not a personal identity. In this episode What allyship actually looks like in workplace behaviour Why “supporting diversity” is meaningless without action How leaders can interrupt exclusion without making it about themselves The risks faced by trans and gender-diverse people at work, and why leadership matters What it means to step in, speak up, and set standards This episode is a call to action for leaders who say they care about inclusion to demonstrate it consistently, publicly, and responsibly. Resources LGBTIQA+ glossary of common terms – Australian Institute of Family Studies
GLAAD – Advancing acceptance through media and storytelling
Wear It Purple – Creating safe, supportive environments for rainbow young people
PFLAG – Supporting, educating, and advocating for LGBTQ+ people and their families
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