Voices of Your Village

364- How to Respond to Triggering Phrases Like, “I Hate You” with Rachel and Alyssa (Rebroadcast)

Voices of Your Village

Show Notes

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today we're bringing you a special rebroadcast of one of our most popular episodes. The village keeps coming back to this one, and for good reason. In this episode, Rachel and I dive into those moments when kids say things that feel rude, hurtful, or even shocking. We unpack why these behaviors often come from a place of dysregulation, what might be going on beneath the surface, and how to respond in a way that builds connection instead of shame. We also talk about what it looks like to model emotional regulation and healthy repair, even when we're triggered ourselves, and why it's okay to be a work in progress. These are themes we go even deeper into in our book Big Kids, Bigger Feelings, which is out now and full of tools to help you navigate these moments with more confidence and compassion. All right, folks, let's dive in.

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Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell

Co-host: Rachel Lounder

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Music by: Ruby Adams and Bensound

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