Show Notes
One of the most disempowering things that we do to ourselves is let everything outside of us be in charge of our emotional life. This conversation is a guide to taking your emotional life back after divorce without minimizing the hard parts. I start by untangling the thought–feeling–action loop and why confusing thoughts with feelings keeps you stuck. You’ll hear how naming a single emotion can calm your brain, what healthy detachment really looks like, and how to process emotions in yo...
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