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This week on Good Moms Bad Choices, Erica and Milah are talking mom guilt, summer pressure, and the realization that the kids are probably doing just fine. As summer approaches and the kids invade the house 24/7, the Good Moms unpack the reality of modern motherhood: trying to create “core memories,” keep up with overachieving moms, manage work, relationships, and still remember to feed yourself (and maybe smoke a little weed in peace). They get raw about comparison culture, over-scheduled childhoods, and how the shit we went through as kids quietly creeps into how we parent today. If you’ve ever felt like you’re not doing enough, this one’s for you. You can also expect to hear Why Erica says mom guilt is made up by the patriarchy The pressure to create “magical summers” and core memories (and why that’s exhausting as hell) How comparison culture, school moms, and social media are making parenting feel like a never-ending performance Moms who are running themselves into the ground trying to do it all (STEM camps, activities, enrichment, all of it) The radical idea that the kids are probably doing just fine Bad Choice of the Week: Falling for yet another love-bombing white man. Whorie Time: A threesome of chaos: Larry, his brother, and the broker — an intertwined hoe-tale you don’t see coming.
Tune in for a funny, honest, slightly high conversation about motherhood, mom guilt, summer expectations, race, dating, and giving yourself a lot more grace. Perfect for single moms, co-parents, conscious parents, gentle parents, and retired whores raising humans who just want to feel less alone.
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