James Paxton: Baseball's Velo Culture, Backyard to Big League & I Wouldn't Get Recruited Now
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James Paxton pitched on some of baseball's biggest stages, battling through injuries to become one of only two Canadian pitchers to ever throw a no-hitter in the big leagues, and the only one to do it on Canadian soil. Earlier this year, he came out of retirement to pitch for Team Canada at the World Baseball Classic. However, these days, most of his innings are as a husband to Katie, a father to two young kids, and co-host of The Pitch podcast. James and Scott dig into the catch-in-the-backyard relationship with his dad that shaped his love of the game, how getting cut from an all-star team at 10 years old became one of the best things that happened to him, and why he doubts the 2026 recruiting version of James Paxton would even get looked at today. They talk through the "allostatic load" youth athletes are carrying with school, friendships, and training stacked on top of each other without the recovery time James had as a kid. They also discuss why velocity gets over-indexed in youth baseball and what are we actually trying to teach kids through sport knowing that most will never become high performance athletes. James also opens up about untangling his identity from his performance on the mound, why he sought out a therapist, and the simple parenting shift he believes matters most: praise the effort, not the result. If you've ever wondered how a former big-league starter thinks about raising his own kids through sport, this conversation is full of hard-earned, honest perspective. Chapters: 0:00 Opening 1:35 Introducing James Paxton 4:11 Childhood Friendships Rooted in Youth Sports 5:33 Late Physical Growth 6:41 Getting Cut From the All-Star Team at 10 8:24 Baseball Was Always His Choice 9:25 Unstructured Backyard Play vs. Skills Clinics 12:05 Where Creativity Actually Comes From 16:12 Recruited to Division I Without Elite Velocity 18:28 Why Late Developers Outperform at the Pro Level 19:38 Why Velocity at 13 Doesn't Predict Anything 20:18 Building the Mental Game With a Sports Psychologist 21:13 Are We Over-Indexing on Velocity? 22:06 Baseball's Many Paths to the Pros 23:10 The Sacrifices of a Pro Career 24:22 "Treating Young Athletes Like Professionals" 25:35 Protecting Actual Childhood as a Parent 26:45 The Line Between Joy and Serious Development 28:00 What His Parents Actually Talked About After Games 30:36 His Dad Catching Bullpens in Steel-Toe Boots 32:57 Allostatic Load: Why Kids Are Burning Out 34:37 The Fear of Not Being Seen 36:39 Less Than 1% Go Pro, So What's the Real Goal? 37:11 What Youth Sports Actually Taught Him 38:22 Travel Sports and the "Free Agent" Problem 39:32 Is Money Driving the Pressure? 41:04 Why Every Kid Needs an Off-Season 42:50 Coming Out of Retirement for the World Baseball Classic 45:36 The Calm That Defined His Career 48:08 Teaching Kids to Reach Their Own Conclusions 48:56 Why You Learn More From Failure Than Success 50:47 The Mentors Who Shaped His Career 52:34 The Value of Playing Across Age Groups 53:46 Small Steps and Delayed Gratification 55:36 Growing Up Without Social Media Comparison 58:53 Separating James Paxton the Person From the Player 1:02:10 The Number One Issue in Youth Sports Today 1:03:53 Praise the Effort, Not the Results 1:05:03 Control the Controllables Resources The Pitch Pod Better Sports Parents
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