What You Carry That Was Never Yours: Family Constellations on Inherited Trauma | Abi Beri
Blissful EvolutionShow Notes
A Family Constellations practice for the heaviness you cannot explain. A sadness too big for your own story. A guilt you cannot trace. A pattern that keeps repeating. What if it did not begin with you? In Family Constellations work — developed by Bert Hellinger — this is called ENTANGLEMENT. A descendant, out of a deep and touching loyalty, unconsciously carries the unresolved burden of an ancestor. Grief that was never grieved. The fate of someone who was excluded. Guilt that was never seen. The engine underneath it is not dysfunction; it is love — a child's boundless loyalty to a family system, which will say, unconsciously: if someone here suffered and was never seen, I will carry it. But that loyalty helps no one. Your depression does not ease your grandmother's grief. Your guilt does not redeem your ancestor. So the work is not to heal the burden as if it were yours — it is to recognise it is not, and to give it back, with respect, to the one whose fate it is. Guided by Abi Beri — Integrative Therapist, Family Constellation Facilitator and Nervous System Specialist based in Dublin, Ireland. In-person across Dublin, Naas, Newbridge and Kildare; online globally. Drawing on Bert Hellinger's orders of love, Mark Wolynn's It Didn't Start With You, Franz Ruppert's intergenerational trauma work, Rachel Yehuda's epigenetics research on Holocaust survivor descendants, and the wider systemic tradition (Boszormenyi-Nagy, Schützenberger). The real healing sentences of the work are spoken slowly, with space. Companion piece to ‘The Ones Who Stand Behind You’, which teaches the receiving; this one teaches the setting-down. For anyone who arrived here after ‘Another Self’ on Netflix: the therapeutic method in the series is Family Constellations, and this is a practice drawn from it. The series compresses and dramatises the work considerably. It is not a medical treatment and does not treat or cure physical illness. 🇮🇪 If deep feeling stirred: Samaritans Ireland & UK 116 123 (24/7, free). Guided Family Constellation groups in Dublin, and one-to one constellation work online globally. Book at somatictherapyireland.com.
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