Show Notes
"Every day got worse… and I still made it through."
This episode is a raw, real look into what it takes to survive and lead as a Black female executive at the highest levels of federal government.
From being the only Black woman in an entire department to questioning whether charisma is a blessing or a curse — this is leadership truth like you’ve never heard it before.
You’ll hear about: What it was like being Acting CIO at a federal agency during the hardest time of her career
Crying. Drinking. Surviving.
How charisma can be used to lead or mislead — and why self-awareness is non-negotiable
Why “much is given, much is required” means protecting the people around you
The emotional toll of leading while Black and female
A touching story about asking too much from her assistant… and learning to check her own power
If you're a leader, aspiring executive, or someone navigating toxic workspaces, this story is your blueprint for survival, soul, and strength.
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 - Surviving the toughest job of her career 00:25 - Every day got worse: emotional breakdowns 00:40 - Learning survival and resilience through pain 01:09 - The only Black woman in the entire department 01:30 - Success gets lonelier at the top 01:50 - Charisma: power or danger? 02:17 - Self-awareness: have someone who checks you 02:52 - Use your influence responsibly 03:33 - The story of her overwhelmed assistant 04:16 - Lesson: leadership means protecting others too
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