# 233 If You Want To Be Lean in a Calm, Kind, Natural Way, Master These Skills
The Paul Dermody PodcastShow Notes
My No.1 bestselling book, FULL: THE EMPTINESS OF OVEREATING, is available here. These are the calmer, kinder skills to make getting lean feel more natural. And no, it's not a protein target or step count. Tolerable hunger vs phantom hunger How to read your body's subtle cues to stop overeating Stop using food for all non-food emotions Stop using dieting to fix a bad body image day Master the skill of leaving some food behind Stop moralising your choices Master the skill of "a little now or a little later" Recognise that if it challenges the role of your suffering, it won't feel natural, but forced Have non-food things to be excited by Take weight loss off the pedestal Join the coaching waitlist
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