The SEND Mum Club

44: Vickie Tanner: Navigating Autism And Mental Health As A Single Mum

The SEND Mum Club

Show Notes

I’m back after a little break over Easter and Vickie Tanner is my guest, talking about her 7 year old daughter Elsie who has Autism, sleep apnoea, epilepsy and is a wheelchair user. We discuss toilet training, milestones, Vickie’s own (very recent) diagnosis of autism, and the impact of SEN parenting on your mental health. Vickie shares her journey with Elsie on Instagram @elsiesworld__

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